marriages

Marriage is a socially accepted union of two individuals. in ancient time everybody used to enjoy this event. but then came the time time when wedding become burdon for poor core group(close frrind , relative and family) and others still enjoy it but now a days weddings really sucks.

Because many have to take leave from office to travel long distances away from their family wasting so much  amount of time, energy and money.

we can see a wedding from the perspective of those who are outside core group, but they are guests only came for food or other obligations. Marriage has noting to do with them. So we exclude their views of less salt in vegetable and lavatory being far away.

But the perspective of core group matters.

The core group has to take the marriage at war footings and have no time to sleep and rest, leave aside laughing and enjoying. They take rest at the end and can say that all went well, then there can be some backbiting that she said that and he did that.

But even more pathetic is the situation of groom and bride(dont know much ), because on their life's most important day they sit with hungry stomach, in uncomfortable dresses that too in front of fire.
That's why most marriages are held in winters and in south india, mostly early mornings, are chosen.


I am not writing to explain the problems associated with this once in a lifetime event  but to put the beautiful side of it. the beautiful side i enjoyed when i happen to visit a marriage in Delhi. It was a beautiful venue with nicely dressed people. But what shocked me the most was that groom was on the Ghodi and was laughing, enjoying and feeling friendship, relations and much more. I could not believe my eyes, and brushed them again and again. But to my surprise he was laughing and now even dancing. I was witnessing a marriage which i think i had never witnessed again till date. But many can say that it was all about money and every marriage is not full of that and after many years of college we have to manage with lesser friends.

But after few years I again witnessed  such a marriage in which the groom was  happy and enjoying every bit of his moments. This time groom was not very rich, might not have known his to-be and was not surrounded by too many friends. Yet no line of fear and anger on his face. He was enjoying drinks with his friends, wearing comfortable suit, joking with pundit, always ready for photoclicks,  dancing on the beat of DJ and above all he was laughing throughout. I recalled that marriage of delhi just to  saw that here money was not flowing and  there were people who always ask difficult questions about life and future. They spared  Mr. groom this time.

Now sitting in library what I want to end up with is that a marriage is about two people and they must remain happy throughout that course of auspicious  celebration. They must not think about all the worldly problems of food, relatives, camera, transport, etc. JUST chill,  its a moment bigger then your birth and death. And as a friend we must remind them to enjoy.