buddhiman, samagdar and moorkh

moorkh speaks before listening and he knows everything in advance 

samagdar speaks after listening and add from his side 

buddhiman listen and do not speak. 

purpose of life

 buddhism -- middle path 

jainism -- non-violence 

hinduism -- moksha and many other as per the school of thoughts such as 

yoga -- means understanding environment and acting as per needs,

          --for adding to environment me need knowledge i.e. gyan yoga
          --also we need a calm mind i.e. raj yoga 
         --detechment i.e. bhakti yoga 

nyaya -- it brings peace so ultimately moksha

vedanta -- 

                dwait -- male and female are different means body and mind are different so meditate on mind 

                adwait -- linga represents atma i.e. nor body nor mind 

charwak -- whatever our body can feel is real and nothing else. 

in modern times I think the puropose of life is to create options. Rich have more options than poor. 

just burn plastic.

 environment, our physical one. the biggest problem is plastic why are we not allowed to burn it. Just because we are not advised by the Western world to do so. Sometimes I feel like one day a leader will come and jolt us to this vision of let's burn plastic. Just like a few days back we were told that no cream can make us fairer. 

relation

 family -- you for me, me for you

father -- advise

mother -- pardon (maafi)

brother -- partner (bhagidari)

wife -- half (of what we are) 

friend -- understanding 

lets understand these with some examples 

father -- Mirzapur movie -- Mother of Guddu and Bablu takes them to a shop and asks for revenge but their father is adamant about not letting his sons go down the wrong path. 

mother -- if you commit crimes like killing, raping, terrorism, and so on ... only your mother can demand one more chance, instead; your father, brother, friend, etc may demand an appropriate punishment.

Brother -- we do good or we do bad but our brothers always get the credit for that, especially by way of comparison; for example Ambanis, 

friends-- suppose u want to commit a crime like theft, rape, etc. Only a friend understands the need to do the same. otherwise brother will go away and mother will deny and the father may call the police.

 limitation of these relations 

father -- a father and son will always compete for power and will try to convince each other that others want to obey themselves, not the other one.

mother -- have no limitations and the relationship lasts without any struggle

brother -- land dispute is unresolvable among them 

wife -- wife's habit of nagging on petty matters and husband's habit of going into isolation mode in which they refuse to listen and respond to wife's continuous talking.

friend -- we became friends because we share a common space and once the long-distance relationship starts then we can no longer stay as good as we were once. 

meditation and karm yogi

 I think at one point of time meditation was discovered to achieve Gyan, just the way religion or bullock cart were discovered to serve some purpose. But today meditation has been repackaged to us like a solution to most of our miseries.  Now a days meditative practices are sold to us like credit cards and online offers, irrespective of our requirements.

 The path of  Gyan (or theory) is one among Bhakti, Dharma and Karma theories.

So, to be aware of the path we are choosing, we have to understand these theories...

1. theory of gyan -- knowledge is strength and ignorance is disability. For gaining knowledge we have to keep our minds calm.So this theory uses meditation. Now a days  this has led to emergence of centers such as vipassna, jaggi vasudev etc, theses centers of meditation represents commercial and  exploitative implementation of this theory. earlier meditation was associated with life after married life i.e. vanprastha ashram and sanyas ashram. Our grandparents  used to meditate with help of string of beads at homes. cost effective?


2. theory of Bhakti -- stresses upon ultimate devotion, it create feelings that can  bend anyone to weep and cry in the name of something that does not exist. In present times its commercialization can be seen with the emergence of holy Babas such as Ram Rahim, Aashram, Rampal etc. who exploit feelings of  ignorant practitioner.


 3. theory of Dharma -- everybody carries  different identities simultaneously, for example a women can be  a teacher, a mother, a neighobur etc. and she ought to act as per her roles associated with these identities. these roles are called as dharma.  Its commercial and exploitative aspect can be seen in verna systam, organization of temples, caste workers scavenging (their next life will be better ) etc. (further explained in theory of karma)



4. theory of karma -- only few religions sikhism or judaism, stresses upon this theory. To understand this theory we need to compare it with dharma theory. Karma theory talks about willingness for work along with, Goodness, not only to others but also to oneself, that too, in this life only .
 But dharma talks about obligations for work; for betterment of established system, in this and other life.
This theory of karma is represented by powerful officers, capitalists, artists etc.


These theories can be further elaborated by this example of a student, who aspire for good employment.....
as per .....

1. bhakti -- she will visit a baba and seek blessings.
2. gyan -- know better ways to keeping mind calm and waste time with money. though such practices may help but does she really require?
3. dharma --visit temple in morning, become a good neighbour, a good friend etc. and let everything distract her. Dharma is good for system not for individual.
4.karma -- if she is a karm yogi(attribute her work to God), then she will study even if, there is war between india and china, if her lover is dead, and there is fire in the neighbour. Ultimately achieving what she deserves.

so instead of being a karma yogi, there are lacks of people who pay others for helping in meditation. Also there are million who live with guilt of not practicing meditation, (a useless activity).

how we talk

amartya sen says that every issue can be resolved if we talk. 

i think there are three levels of conversations or three levels of replies for same statement.  the first level sounds  assimilatory , the second one is an attacking one and the third one is killer one. lets understand with examples…. 

one fine day a boy came to me and asked a maths question, though the question was relatively easy at his level of class, i have three ways of replying. first is, saying nothing and giving the solution, second is, telling him that he should work harder, and third is, asking him to leave maths, as it is not his cup of tea. 

just when i am writing this blog, my cook asked me where is the knife. I know that he often misses knife. I have three ways of replying, I can smile and say that I don’t know. Another is, I can ask him to be more cautious next time onwards, and third is by telling him that he is a bad cook as he cannot take care of his belongings. 

this third type of reply, in both cases,  is very dangerous and we must, not only, abstain from talking like that but also stay away from people who talk alike. because at level three the talks are about problems, which have no solution.   Another example, she is bad in communication because of her lesser height. now if she tries to improve her speak-ability  by increasing height, she cannot do in her lifetime. 

likewise, the problem of caste can be solved in a moment if we start talking at level one. But we normally talk at level three. for example she is poor in maths because she belongs to scheduled community. 

These levels  are necessary to understand at personal level also because today there are many who advises us that our difficult time is because of certain habits, mind, or distinctness. this may disturb us mentally, unless we know that they are talking at level three and these advises must be ignored or corrected even at the cost of relationship. 

I think that those who talk at level one are important persons, who can take care of themselves and work to solve problem of others. at level second we have people who are attention seekers, part of problem not solution, 

and at third level we have idiots and haters who either do not know how to talk or want to sever  the relationship but are stuck due to some reasons, so we must stop the communication and got away from them, asap. 

understanding attitude

for so long we have been seeing and observing this term i.e. attitude. But what does this term actually mean can be understood with examples.

firstly we have to understand that attitude is of three types i.e. positive, negative or neutral.
examples
1. a women is feeding her child with biscuit. -- positive attitude's person(+) will see a loving and caring mother, instead of negative one (-)who will see that mother is giving less nutritious food.
2. a person driving his car very fast -- + will see an urgency, (-) will see idiocy.
3. two friends who are aspirants for a job. If one gets it and other could not. then the one who could not get the job, if have positive attitude, will think, that atleast my friend got success but if he has negative attitude, then he will be jealous of the other.

person with positive attitude tries to learn good things out of any situation, person, event or issue.

this makes attitude very important because by having a positive attitude we can see opportunities, that enables us to keep moving forward.

informally, attitude can mean , positiveness, and if a person say that she has attitude, that mean,  she does not require external negative inputs.

talks -- chugali

talking can be of many type such as constructive(in which we talk about issues), non-serious/gossips (in which we talk about artificial problems) and chugali(in which we try to demean or undermine particular individuals).

this chugali type of conversations is particularly very interesting because
1. evolution tells us that it has led to development of language (parochial or local),
2. social bonding between loosers, and almost everybody is a looser on certain counts.
3. an individual can feel satisfied and secure by getting a positive feedback from others.

characteristics of chugali
1. it is a very serious affair, as credibility is at stakes,
2. it requires very small group one to four maximum,
3. it has a soothing effect on nerves, and can be equated with meditation, drinking, shopping etc.
4. it is not for bigger motives like power, money etc.
5. it can be done on low voice and cool temprament,
6. it is a form of addiction or automatic mode or easy mode, in our mind.

we cannot always talk in a constructive way because it requires an effort for educating ourselves and then acting like others. But we must be careful that while chugaling, we are talking about negativity, which is bad as it consumes time and energy. that is the reason, today people are unhappy because of other's happiness.
 So a young person who is working hard, minding own business, thinking big, thinking beyond ages,  never indulges in chugali(not even in thoughts).

animal instinct

What is it that distinguishes us, as human, from animals? the exact answer is,  we can think of ourselves and can also think what others are thinking about us. Also other human-like characteristics are love, respect, attention, etc. These values are what defines us as different from animals.

But we have common ancestors with animals so at some level we share each other's characteristics. that is, sometimes animals show love, respect, etc. for their loved ones. While they are showing these values they are definitely not only animals but also something else. But to see the animal's instinct we can remind of a group of wolves during a hunt -- no mercy -- no pain and only thing that came to their mind is filling the stomach.

Human when showing animals instinct indulges in killing, fighting, abusing, texting(without thinking), misusing mind and senses for jealousy, anger, disrespect etc.

That is why going away from senses if godly.

padmawati

understanding different perspectives

Rajput-- for them Padmawati symbolizes courage, valour, leadership,  and much more. So she is adorable and is revered by this community, they are very sentimental about their historical legends. Just like Muslims about the prophet, or Hindus about Hanumanji.

government -- government choose to ban this movie, in spite of protecting the right to freedom of expression, because the primary responsibility of a government is to exist. At times government resorts to such tailor-made solutions but they must not become trends.

Deepika Padukone -- she is not a ''Nachnewali'', but belongs to the league of actresses who are global faces of UNICEF, UN etc. and also she carries the support of Bollywood which is one of the biggest pressure groups in the world.

But what we, as citizen of India, should do in all this?
We must show emotional maturity and social tolerance. We must also understand that we can disrespect anybody or we can worship anything. So



Padmavati-- the movie must not be allowed to become a political tool for few. Because firstly she is a fiction and secondly she was part of a system that we inherited, making her ours as well. Can there be any Padmawati without food produced by farmers, or cloths stitched by tailors, or castles build by engineers?

I think Padmavati's role in the movie should be done by Jacqueline Fernandez because they both are from Sri Lanka.  

doctor or astrologer for a disease.

there are many similarities between doctor and an astrologer

1. both think that all diseases can be cured but none of them can treat a single one. 
2. they both diagnose the problem as non of them can cure a single disease with a single pill/act.
3. they both play with human mind, doctors give mind numbing medicine and astrologer give confidence.
4. they both are backed by biggest industries ,(after arms industry), on earth i.e. the pharmaceutical industry and religion. 
5. they both feed upon ignorant people. any class, any religion, any region, any language, etc.
6. they both have their own legality and science associated with them which is enough to befool. 
7. it is age, experience, confidence, fees and the list of visitors, that matters and not the quality of performance in both the cases,
8. almost 90% of Indians are taking pills by doctors, ''openly'', and 90% of Indians are going to an astrologer, ''secretly''.
9. Both play with pocket as doctor prescribe banned medicine and astrologers prescribe gems ,which are not jewelry. 
10. our solar system has sun and planets, which is definitely less complex than bodies of nearly 8 billion people, but ignorant people think that a list of 20 salts or a donation on Saturday can cure all ills.
11. they both provide an easy solution for bigger problems.

differences between doctor and astrologer

1. doctor work mostly in urban area and astrologer work mostly in rural areas. 
2. doctor belongs to the middle class so carries political clout with them, but astrologers perform their task in secret so hardly come in open. 
3. we need doctors for post-mortem and not astrologers.

here the doctor refers an MBBS degree holder, who learn to kill pathogens (virus and bacteria).

the doctors of homeopathy or ayurveda are excluded because they work on principles of rising immunity and cough, vaat and pitt.
also, the astrologer means priest, shaman, medicine man, sorcerer, witch.

So in case of disease go to a doctor, if in India, go to an astrologer also.


I felt this wickedness after i was hospitalized.

sociologists and economists

sociologists talk about social relations which include issues of those people who don't have money such as women, tribals, slaves, etc.
economists know how to met unlimited demands from limited resources. they can tell how to increase profit.

Nowadays economists are gaining but sociologists are receding in terms of recognization.

why economists got more recognization is
1.  they are backed by western developed countries who want to gain profit by international trade. Also, their social structure supports such developments.
2. economic power is very effective in gaining control of world's affairs so developing countries followed their western counterparts.

 this has resulted in getting economic solutions than social solution of issues, for example, global warming.
we know that the best solution for global warming is planting.  economist's solution has been the use of fuel-efficient cars or financial inclusion etc., hardly any mention of plants.  this is because plants have lesser economic value but have higher social value(religion, marriage etc.). So sociologists can give better solutions to global warming.

similarly, sociologist have a better solution than an economist, of issues such as education(for social relation or for economic gain), national security(for residents or for country's wealth), health(for humanity or through modern medicines), etc.

We must also consider that social life has existed since paleolitihic period  and economic life is mainly a result of the industrial revolution.

this shows that human relations have existed for a longer time than the economic relations. And for acknowledging the true potential of human relations we need social intellectuals.
So we must start nobel prize in sociology. 

spiritual quotient

IQ i.e. intelligent quotient is the ability to understand, imagine, or memory related aspects.It is good in passing exams.
EQ i.e. emotional quotient is the ability to manage our emotions, for example, we bring the feelings of office to home and then beat kids for not studying. It is for working socially.

the concept of spiritual quotient i.e. SQ requires a background.
we live in a world where things are changing and when a change occurs in our lives we have to adjust with that. In the process of change, sometimes we go through stressful moments. these moments create a cycle of thoughts and these cycles are self-sustaining and consume our minds abilities. these negative thoughts are so powerful that they can cause anger, stress, mental depression or even suicidal tendencies.

 a person with lower SQ is unable to break these cycle of thoughts.

But a person with higher SQ can handle change easily and happiness or pain comes to her like nothing. she can understand that these changes are there to pass.

So how to raise the level of SQ.

can hobby be the solution?
Yes, that is why, since time immemorial, in every interview, hobby is a must question.

what I consider about hobbies is that

meditation can be the best hobby but it sucks.

the easiest hobby is talking and backbiting as it gives a sense of goodness or superiority,

universal hobbies are painting, music, shopping, writing, traveling, talking to strangers etc,

at times smoking and drinking socially can be a hobby,

killing others and sleeping can be a hobby, as these breaks the cycle of thoughts.

as per Gita -- the pleasure of senses, anger, and greed are the biggest of enemies of SQ or a blissful life.   

along with hobbies I discovered a very ancient practice to counter the changes in life and called it as ''fuck the world asan''.

Nobel prize and Churu

wealth is what we inherit and income is related to salary.
it is very difficult for income to compete with wealth. For example, if a person from middle class has a land worth fifty lakhs then it is very difficult for another person to chase with a salary in thousands.

this concept is very relevant for those
1. who are ready to leave their houses after fighting, with parents, in search of informal employment.
2. who want to choose between a wealthy person and a salaried person in matters of marriage.

the situation is very clear in case of western countries where one must choose a wealthy option but then in India, we have to understand the dynamics in a very different perspective.
1.in India, there is huge corruption and salaried persons can earn a lot, which is not possible in western countries(like US). the sudden rise of the middle class since 1990 shows this phenomenon. Gini coefficient proves the fact.
2.our social values are tilted towards saving, we worship Laxmi, but in US people have consumeristic values and they spent a lot. As evident from the growth of wealth of Indian diaspora in US.
3. Indians value stability and care for land, gold and a government job. So for a salaried person, it is easy to access loan and store wealth. Due to the poor condition of informal sector all the loan is for overpaid government employees.


Angus Deaton got nobel prize for the concept which proved that wealth is the reason for inequality in developing countries. This concept is applicable for most of the developing world but Churu does not follow rules. Here I observe that salaried persons have gained much of wealth since 1990s and the wealthy Goldsmiths, shopkeepers, businessmen and many more are looking for loan from, the not so greedy, salaried persons.



this proves that one must never abandon wealth and if forced to go away then one should come back and for choosing spouse, salaried person is a better option.

also nobel prize in economics, it sucks.... 

marriage -- who did why

I have seen mountains moving. At one time it was very uncool to talk about it, but today almost everybody is in the game, so let's discuss the reasons.

we can go by two criteria i.e. stability and age.

stability-- those who are stable and earning have huge pressure from society. Society does so because marriages establish relations.

those who are not earning, require money from parents and with money comes the expectations of parents that they are getting older and needs an extra support mechanism or adventure in their lives.
similarly, the kids also wanted to change their routine of last few years.

age--
 after a certain age, there are two types of individuals i.e.
 those who are getting their needs(mostly sexual) fulfilled without marriage and others who could not get it.
   Clearly, those who could not, are in search of ways to fulfill their needs.

    Those who get it are either getting it in secret or in open. getting it secretly has psychological issues associated with morality (for rich), legal ( for middle class) and character (for poor).
But getting it openly carries issues like, when to seal the deal.

very rare are those who say --I got married because I wanted to raise boys so that they could beat my ankles in senescence.

men and women differences

except for biological differences, there is no other difference between a man and a woman.
For proving that
    we can take up many examples such as
1. we (i.e. men and women both) like money equally.
2. we need love, care, respect, etc equally.
3. we both appreciate painting, travelling, music, dressing, eating etc.


the differences we consider most of the time are due to many other reasons like
social strata -- men in lower strata are less educated than women at higher.
regional differences -- can women participate in combat -in America yes, in India no.
practice -- in the field of sports practice matters a lot as with rigorous work women can run more than men.


most of the differences like dressing, longer hair for women, higher intuition and poorer driving skills etc are a result of environment, society and history. As with the higher understanding of psychology, we can understand their causes.
So there is no need to think that
women are better organizers,
women are better at cooking or  at other household activities,
or women cannot work like men etc.

diwali ki safai and swacch bharat mission

on the one hand we have diwali ki safai in which we tend to break our back for cleaning our houses and showing greatest enthusiasm for cleanliness and on the other hand we have a clean india mission which is running at a snail's pace.
though it is evident that swacch bharat mission is mainly about public space and diwali's cleanliness is a private affair. But still we have to find reasons for our public space being so dirty.

some of the obvious reasons can be plastic, population pressure, etc but still there are suttle other factors like
1. urabn attitude which deals in minding own business.
2. missing cattles-- earlier almost every house or streets have cattle which can be fed with kitchen's waste.

3.  consumption pattern-- there was almost no waste because of behaviour of consuming till the end, for example, a cotton cloth was first worn by father then the son then it becomes grandson's bedsheet.

4. women were dedicated to household activities and have enough time to work for cleaning the house and surrounding with ease but nowadays both male and female have to work outside the house.

5. reduction in festivals-- diwali and other such festivals were occasions of inviting guests which is not the same in this era.

6. westernization -- our environment supports biodegradation unlike western colder countries so we follow the behaviour of spreading the things out so that heat of sunlight can work quickly. But now we are packing our garbage in plastic bags instead of sorting out them.

7. we do care for a clean place not for a dirty one. For example delhi metro is well maintained by riders. And our generation has inherited a poor environment.

8. migration has resulted in the centralization of policies and local people are left with no effective control over decision making.

9. british legecy which made us to respect power and not a human being. It works by giving less respect to sweepers than to a powerful person. so if a powerful person is doing something wrong then instead of opposing her we start following.


So the solution lies in understanding and respecting our culture so that courts don't have to intervene and ask pata-k mat chorna. 

my idea

what if there is an app that connects service providers with those in need of maintenance.

here service providers can be plumbers, electricians, carpenters, tailer and few others. 

and we know that maintenance is required almost everywhere and within the regular interval. 

this app will create an ecosystem as created by uber, snapdeal, unacademy etc. that is, like uber provide taxi to travellers, snapdeal connect buyers with sellers, unacademy connect teachers with learners. Similarly this app will provide connectivity among skilled servers with those in need of these services. 

other benefits associated with it will be

1. employment generation, we know that there is too much requirement of skilled hands. 

2. skill development, as more and more colleges will take up the skilling courses against creating unemployable graduates. 

3. poor household and official maintenance lead to the depreciation of economic assets of our country, that can be saved.

4. the platforms will be created on mobiles and other technology-based platforms which are in consonance with government's policy of extension of technology-based services. 

5. the app will create a competitive environment by providing the pictorial feedback mechanism. this competition can be between this app and government's services providers such as, few individuals can order for cleaning the road, removing carcases from roadsides or fixing a running public tap.   

6. the app will create the ecosystem as envisaged by former president of India APJ Abdul Kalam and the greatest Mahatma Gandhi,  as it is a form of footloose industry and will serve on location-based technology i.e. if required in a remote area the app can provide car mechanic in Ladakh or rann of Kutch, also if available.

7. the other significant features that can be associated with it like security during service, ratings of service providers and much more. 

8. the major challenges that can be considered are .....haha I don't know this is a cruel world. 

spending few days at home forced me to think for a better way of getting things done because it is very difficult to find skilled people for a lazy person like me. 

fun fact

Female participation rates declined from 34 percent in 1999-00 to 27 percent in 2011-12 in India. 

Goodness and success

does goodness really lead to success?

being good is like helping others, having compassion, empathy, being truthful, and ultimately maintaining a good relationship with oneself and with others.  We have to understand the highest quality of being good is at the level of humanity. Then comes our other identities for example good with society(family, friends, relatives) or good with the country(patriotism) or with nature etc. we know many who are patriotic but not good in dealing with her family like Governor of Puducherry.
Kabir was good with humanity but bat at society.

Being successful is like gaining wealth, knowledge, power and being able to help others. Ambani and Modi can be good examples.

I consider that success is a function of hard work, perseverance, practice and the like.
for example there are many politicians who are not following practices of being a good person, still, they are successful.

But being good is not enough for success, for example, Ram could defeat Ravan not because he was good but because he was able and have capabilities.

So what is the use of being good? For example, in a badminton court, I know two players. One of them always share his secrets with newcomers and other may even refuse to play with not so better players.
why does one help others -- there can be many reasons like
1. is it because of reciprocity but we must not demean goodness with such a meaningless purpose. Also, there are many who have compassion for unknown.
2.  fear of God, as religion teaches us to be good and kind for others but religion has caused pogroms.
3.  habit of being good, for example, once developed the habit of respecting elders. Advising in family matters.
4. We are human and we had it naturally like love and empathy. Also, these human-like characters make us feel good. Yes, happiness can be a reason for being good but still, we are animals and animal-like feelings also please us so why not to be bad.

But being good is not enough and good people are in the jail or babysitting for bad people. far away from success.

I consider goodness like the handle of a cycle and success is like moving forward.
Further, we know that we can manoeuvre our cycle with help of handle but the more important purpose of the cycle is moving forward and going somewhere.

But lastly, being good is just another plane which may or may not coincides with success. This leaves us open to be good at any point of time i.e. after or before success.

women and food

The women's rights movement have always talked about the position of women in the society. What they demanded is different from time to time but it is clear that position of women is associated with the division of labour. From the day the division of labour started from hunters and gatherers to neolithic to advanced society women are tasked with managing the household and men are tasked with works outside courtyard.

But this division is not the reason for status in the society but the value we associate to the task. For example if women cook food and men hunt then they may have equal status in the society unless the hunting is given more value and cooking is looked down upon.

And when the societies got evolved in a more complex setting where economics became business outside of kitchen then the value of household activities diminished heavily.

cut to present age the significance of kitchen is the least in the house compared to lawn outside or garage, guest room etc. This is because we think that food is secondary to many other things. And this has led to lowering the value of all those who are associated with it for example housewives, dadiji, naniji and all those who are always worried about our food.

But what if food becomes primary to everything, which actually it is
 1. a good meal can be valued by those who live away from home and have to spend time, money, and energy on an unbalanced diet.
2. taking good meal is such a psychological satisfaction that we can concentrate well on the task assigned. At time Gautam Buddha takes up KHEER just to bring mental satisfaction.
3. as a country we can save billions by preventing food poisoning, under and overfeeding, export-import of food items, kitchen have a solution for many diseases and illnesses such as turmeric, hot water and much more.
4. kitchen is associated with culture and a history of taste and love and we must preserve it.

What can be done is that
1. spread of awareness that food is THE most important part of one's life and we all work for a happy meal and a beautiful life.
2. women can be encouraged to stay as housewives and they must be paid heavily for giving proper value to their work.
3. we must understand that if we start valuing our kitchen and other household activities like mopping, dusting, cleanliness etc. all those associated with it then the status of women will increase automatically.

The times are changing and we are seeing that more and more women are choosing to be housewives because taking care of a house is as important responsibility as earning from working outside the house.
my post is not to prove that women can not/should not be supreme court lawyer or rbi governor but to show that these exceptions must not be the parameter for measuring stauts of women. Rather household autonomy is a better criteria and this autonomy can be spread over by valuing food and household activities.
And with growing awareness about  preventive health care and food or hygiene, the condition of women will improve.

just like that -- every 3 minutes an indian girl is trafficked into sexual slavery, and only 1% of them are rescued.

india china war -- use of violence

there can be many implications of the war between these two countries but here postitive implicatons on india are discussed when we look from a bigger perspective

1. political implications -- there are high chances that the state will become very powerful. This can result in what has happened in past. for example, during emergency 1975 in india , we saw that there was no opposition, no freedom of speech, judiciary will not be able to take cognizance. If we go to higher level then our country can turn into what was Germany in second world war. But definitely, decisions will be taken in time, there will be accountability. There will be only one king in the jungle and no petty criminals.

2. economic implications -- america, china, uk, and most of other developed countries could expand their capacities due to wars which led to more demand, employment generation, and tax revenue. this is evident when we saw that wars around the world waged for economic gains. Suppose there is war and India need tanks then we will require more hands to make these tanks.

3. strategic implications -- India has been growing consistently in the wake of bad neighbors. If they are not there then there are chances that we do not require tank or missiles. and for making these weapons we have to make many other things i.e. from needle to satellite.

4. social implications -- war is a big nation builder. if there is war then we will not care about caste, gender, age, region, religion, language or anything else. But when there is no emergency then we are divided on innumerable grounds.

5. developmental implication-- If the state money to fight the war then neither the tax payer could refuse nor the naxalite could stop because now the state is very powerful and all the dissenting voices could be crushed with use of military force within a limited time.


But we must be careful that this propaganda of war is not used for political gains, as has happened in india.
Like India cannot win over Pakistan because of its nuclear capacity simliarly India -China war will be undecisive.
 Think of a country where the PM is shouting like mad man to keep the city clean, and we urinating anywhere, my friend if there is war with China then that man can make every person urinate in pants, remember Indira Gandhi. Jai democracy.

where are you abhishek

it is such a common question from me that I have no answer. some time back I used to think that when the situation will get better than I will answer but now I think I should answer. But I have different answers for different persons and my answer began, after finishing my college.
answer 1 is
after college, I got a decent job. After working for few months continuously I was on vacations at home. I was enjoying myself very much especially the food and weather. On that fateful evening, I went to buy mangoes for mango shake.  I knew that mangoes were 80rs/kg but the vendor was adamant for 85rs/kg. initially, it was a debate but within few seconds vendor and I were ready for each other's blood. And then the bad luck sat on my mind and I threw the 1 kg weight on his head. Ohh my God, still that moment shivers my spine. I killed a man. I was immediately arrested and within a few months bar of jail were my fate.

But as you know I am king of hell. So I manage to get the good company of drug lords and made friends from the underworld. As I was new in police record so I started managing accounts of Rajasthan's biggest don. But my destiny wants something else. Yes, i broke the jail out and started my own business. But of course more risky and full of money.

I was so happy that I bought a Ferrari. But on that fateful night, my Ferrari rode over few beggars  sleeping on roadsides. But this time there was few judges and fewer policemen. Thanks to the system and my rich business I was taken out the country and my Ferrari made me ''farrar''. As my business was no longer viable for me so I sold it in return of a private jet and few billion dollars. The only thing I could do was roam around the world and spend my money. On my tours around the world I happen to visit many tax heavens and from there links got established between me and black money generated in India, Pakistan, Russia, Saudi Arabia and much more.

Wish I would have not gone to that Casino in Lasvegas. As before that night I had all the luxuries of life, yes you know, but when I came out I made that Casino richest and without any competition. The news broke out and Indian secret services easily extradited me straight to Tihar jail.

But I was the product of this corrupt system and how could the information which only I was carring could be left unused. But the day mossaic fonsica broke out I knew that my days on earth are  countable on fingers. My information of absolutely of no use. Now Tihar was the safest place for me because my companions were terrorists, murdorers, rapists etc. But my enemies outside were dragons, dracualas, wolves, and savages who all just united to kill me for loosing their money.

Yes, I know , good people are always in the jail. But they are good, and their ethical and moral behaviour made me sneak out of the jail in the dark of that night.

I reached the old delhi railway station and managed to catch a train which just begun its journey. Yes it was an unplanned journey like I was born again, without any destination.

For next few hours I do not have energy to think about my journey or myself. Either dumbness or faintness exhumed me. But I was jolted by ticket checker and as I was without ticket. I could feel what those children might have been thinking, in movie slumdog millioner, when the TT said -- ye train tere baap ki hai kya. But I knew that the railway minister of india used to pay for contacting me.
Alas life is life, I was thrown out of train leaving me with no path and no destination.

I spent few hours in that railway station and then came out of it in search of food. I met some foreigners and started to have a conversation. Here my knowledge of world tours and differentlanguagese proved very handy and i got new companions. I joined them. And soon found myself on road to Khajuraho.

When we reached Khujaraho many of us decided to take rest in hotel and few decided to see the beauty of stones in fool moon night. I never knew what forced me to see that temple in that fatefull night. But the moment I entered the temple I found myself highly energized and there was nothing stopping me from feeling every nook and corner of that temple.

Suddenly I heard the voices of dance and music from the main sanctum. It was nearly 12 am and i could watch that the moon was never brighter than before.

But I was not alone and few others were also seated there and from their clothes, I could sense that they were scientists, tribals, and few holy men. Before I could be seated the show was ended for a new beginning.

I could sense that such a moments could not be bought with money or power or anything else, but with luck and that too on correct time.

And then came the most beautiful women, we could have ever imagined,  to dance before us. I could see that many of others got fainted after seeing her and many were hipnotized by her walk only. So I got on a more comfortable seat from where I could start seeing her.

And now she start dancing. there was no music except the air which was created by her moves. But then she start dancing faster and faster and the pillers of temple started resonating like tabla, sarod, guitar, and what not. Those who got fainted from seeing her were lucky because now there were many dead bodies who could claim to see her dancing.

But the effect on me was very different. I could only feel her dancing on that self created music. She took over my senses completely and then I start dancing with her. Our dance was perfectly synchronized like we were dancing for ages. We were two bodies but our soules were united by the energy of our dance. I could not feel that if the dance was the tandav of bhagwan shiva or meditation of gautam buddha. The heat oozing out of our bodies was enough to vapourise our sweat but it was the heat of our breaths that was not only melting the stone around but also started burning the surrounding forestes. The granite floor beneath our feets had already turned into finer sand and before this sand could cement the melting pillers, the sun bestowed it first ray of light in the temple.

that light was very clear one, and before i could break the rhythm and see her I realized that I have used every part of energy stored in every cell of my body. I started to fall. But she held me. I was in her lapses.
I could feel and sense from my hands that she has long hairs coming down till bottom of her waist like brahma could not contain knowledge in her head.

When my eyes saw into her eyes I got the joy and happiness which can not be bought with all the wealth of Kuber. It was through her eyes that I realized real sense of life which is beyond right and wrong, truth or lie, peace or violence, black or white. At that very moment I understood that life is about me and my devotion for her soul, that too without any other visible feature.

But my head which was cushioned by her hands close to her womb that made me realize through her heat that she held the reason for life and death. It was from her womb the life was created and when the purpose is exhausted the life can be taken away with flick of her finger. It was the creator of life and user of energy I was touching upon.

what happen next day when they three served me food in himalaya is a matter of my upcoming book. 

jat

for few years I am listening about cases of Jat's being at the wrong corner. This can be in northern India or in specific pockets but there is definitely some pattern that can be detected.  Take some of the incidents.
1. Muzaffarnagar riots .. Jat versus Muslims
2. encounter of a criminal from Nagaur-- Jat versus Rajput
3. criminal activities in Delhi and surrounding is invariably linked with culture that is dress and language resembling Jats

today while talking to a friend I stumbled upon this thought. But looking for reason is even more important. these reasons can be
1. Since very long communal lines are drawn between Hindus and Muslims, that has generated lots of awareness and it is very easy to identify politicians who are involved in such acts.
2. Jats are widespread and are in huge number so the chances of conflict are equally pronounced.
3. The presence of this particular community is very less in media and this issue of Jat and anti- jat is very sensitive to talk about on such platforms.
4. Jats have traditionally been found to be vocal and physical because of being in more number and a history of rigorous physical labor especially in farms (:D as truck drivers).  But now their voices are taken as a symbol of aggression and attack.  Politicians know how to use these symbols and mobilize votes.
-- the reason behind harsh language is that the region is continuously in turmoil due to foreign attacks through this route, as north and south, of this area,  are defended by rivers and desert.
**the antipathy can also be because of
5.  the state is always sceptical because of the presence of such a strong community near the capital and once J.Nehru himself talked about the presence of a community which can capture Delhi within blink of an eye.
6. Historically britishers have called this community as martial community, making them feel aggressive and others at recieving end.

what can be effects of this..
1. the emergence of leaders who are jat only and anti-jat only leaving aside regional boundaries.
2. there can be further incidents which can be coloured as per requirements of Jats and anti- Jat politicians

what we can do about it is that
first of all we have to acknowledge that there are lines being drawn by politicians which divide Jat against other communities.

Yes, of course, I am a Jat but I am also a north indian, hindi speaker, vegetarian, student, son and much more . So please stay away from identity politics and give a thought to facts and realities.  

what to do if we see a beggar

what will be the first thought came to you if u have 20 rupees and you see a beggar. This is a really good question and anybody can be taken a back with this question.

Sometimes begging is not a serious affair such as we see people in western countries begging with their guitar and speakers. An indian way is begging for religous purposes such as buddhist monks or hindu saints and yogis. But here dignity and self respect are never at stake and people are ready to donate. 

But the problem is with destitution, poverty, disabilities like a disease, old age, third sex etc and organised crime like kidnapping, organ selling etc. 

Money is a scarce resource and nobody has it for wasting. Here comes the queston in mind, for going with moral values or with economic realities of life. If we choose to be moral then we are satisfying ourselves, without thinking about the beggar. Also we are true to our future generations and teaching them the lessons of compassion and morality. And if we choose to go with economics then we have the incentive to work hard, enjoy our lives and one day will be able to help even more people. 

Not donating and donating is not an option. if we are human we must give, that's what our culture teaches us and that is what we must teach our children. But it is important where will be the point of incidence of donation, that is on the street or on the ballot box(oops evm). 

In between street and ballot box we can do much by keeping these destitute people in mind such as saving electricity, water, etc. Not wasting petrol or diesel and other such civic activites by which we can save government's money which will eventually be used in poverty alleviation programmesso that one day our country will be free from begging. 

So next time when a beggar will come to me I will deny him because I know that I have saved 20 rupees of my government by switching off fan at my room. And those 20 rupees will be given to him through a different route. 

post psychomatic depression

yesterday i was sitting in library with my books and i saw a message on facebook from a classmate from college. I will not name that friend so we can call him X. X wanted to talk to me urgently so I gave him my contact number. And in few minutes i got the call.

I answered it and found that X wanted 4000 rupees from me. Then with a little bargaining, he sat for 2000. I wanted to know that why he want money from me because its been many years that we have seen each other and in college also we had almost no conversation. Then he informed me that he was suffering from post psychomatic depression and few other diseases.  His father was also getting diagonised from other problems which were technical terms difficult for me to understand. Though I wanted to talk and know more but he was consistently asking for money. So we could not talk much.

After coming back to my seat, the first thought came to me is that people are really going through tough times. I thanked god for keeping me in good shape. Then I thought of helping X.


We have to understand that friends and family can do more than a doctor in cases of mental problems because of emotional attachment. But emotional attachment is not enough and we have to understand that depression is something that is definitely associated with a decline in the spiritual quotient.

So here are ways for helping X in recovering.
Firstly the concerned person must start talking to X for long hours and that can be possible by meeting him or giving time on telephone. Then going out with X and seeing new places will work. Once the relationship is established and there is confidence in relation then X must be asked to start running or jogging. this physical exercise if associated with writing for 3 hours a day can help a lot in mental development. At present stage X may start writing if given monetary rewards.

Once these physical and mental exercises are continued for 10-15 days then X must be accompanied with something with which he can spend time with. that something can be a dog, travelling, girl or anything interesting which should be his preference. With time of nearly 2 months, I am sure a helping hand can save a life, X .

I know friends who want to help other and X have contacted them but they lack initiation. Please friends help X. If not for X then for yourself because the satisfication you will get from supporting X is immense. I am sure that depression is a cycle and X will recover very soon in nearly 3-6 months.

why nationalism

Recently when maggi was banned by the government, I came to realise that maggi is such a great nation builder. Nation by definition emphasises on sharedness, commonality etc. this commonality can be of food, culture, game, customs, etc. For example we indians feel the same when a cricket match take place between india and pakistan. similarly we indian feel the same when national anthum is played. So we need something in common between a soldier defending border and a girl about to be born.

Why cannot we say that there are no borders and we are all one and we are all for all. why to create borders for which we shed our blood. such as why scientists cannot produce for every country or why farmer cannot produce for every individual on earth. I mean why there is always this notion of nationalism such as american , pakistani , russian or german.

Taking a functionalist approach i would like to say that we choose nationalism as a way to serve human needs. yes we need nation for commonailty. By this commonality, we can express ourselves better.

Taking my point to interpersonal level. when we talk with each other then the best point to talk is to talk about what is common between us. otherwise, mr x will talk about his daughter and mrs y will talk about her books that too when book and daughter has nothing in common.

When we talk about something in common then we express our feelings and understand the feelings of others. And when it comes to sharing our feelings our family is the best place. because we have spent so much time with our family members that we almost do not need language to express ourselves. this expressing of feeling makes us human.

It is like we have so much to tell but language cannot convey everything so we choose art like painting, music, religion etc. which are beyond nationalism. But how much we talk in art or what about our other feelings which we have no time to express in art. So we need somebody to listen to us. and if others are listening then they require us to listen to them also. and then comes the commonness and sharedness upon which we can express our feeling and can agree upon.

But this is a big world and we have to distinguish between whome to discuss the most. And nationalism can provide best mechanism to share something among so many people that no other mean can provide, especially in present times. As in past religion was such a medium at the mass level.

So now we can understand all the fuss about nationalism created in media nowadays . but in the name of nationalism other means of expression such as religion, regionalism, linguism , feminism, culturalism, etc must not be suppressed. Because they are also means of expression of our feelings.

 Yes, nationalism is needed for people to understand each other i.e. when next time a person from northeast when visit north india they are not discriminated or next time when i pass through chandigarh I am not made to pay traffic challan just because my car is delhi or rajasthan numbered .  Ours is a diverse country with 1.25 billion aspirations. And if they all have to talk with each other then nationalism is only medium (i mean each other ).  let's unleash the power of talking and expressing our feelings.

So if there is no nation then there will be not talking among people from punjab with people from tamil nadu. we are a big country which means we can share our feelings with soo many other people and if we could forge this commonness upon each other then we know a bundle of sticks is far more stronger than individual sticks.

So nationalism provides commonality, which is needed in sharing of feeling, that is an individual necessity and this led to more opportunity and development of the physical and internal world. 

new comers

few days back i was travelling from degana to delhi. on my way i met a boy who was very confident about his future such as in few days he is going to become an officer or going to rule the world like that. During that conversation, I had no chance of proving myself of any worth especially in his eyes. when the journey end i was in a state of shock and my mind felt the disappointment like never before. But life goes on and now when i see that idot, I feel that that day's feeling was such a waste of time.

Today i went to see one of my friend here in churu. that friend of mine was accompanied by a newly struggling boy. This reminded me of my train journey and I  realised that I must immediately run away from that potential strees bomb, for me. I did the same but made my friend aware of the dangers of roaming with such potential threat for self-confidence.

today i am writing this to inform everybody of my age, who are struggling and breaking their backs. These are stress-full times. nobody is feeling good about their lives because nobody should feel good if he/she has to achieve bigger. My friends, please keep calm, stay away from too much of contact with others, who are not ready to understand you. these others are those who have not done anything in their lives or are not facing stressful moments or are not young or mature enough. please stay away from facebook , it only tells us how happy others are and not what problems they are facing. As it is rightly said that if we have to be happy then we must look at those who are worse than us and believe me there are people like that.

marriages

Marriage is a socially accepted union of two individuals. in ancient time everybody used to enjoy this event. but then came the time time when wedding become burdon for poor core group(close frrind , relative and family) and others still enjoy it but now a days weddings really sucks.

Because many have to take leave from office to travel long distances away from their family wasting so much  amount of time, energy and money.

we can see a wedding from the perspective of those who are outside core group, but they are guests only came for food or other obligations. Marriage has noting to do with them. So we exclude their views of less salt in vegetable and lavatory being far away.

But the perspective of core group matters.

The core group has to take the marriage at war footings and have no time to sleep and rest, leave aside laughing and enjoying. They take rest at the end and can say that all went well, then there can be some backbiting that she said that and he did that.

But even more pathetic is the situation of groom and bride(dont know much ), because on their life's most important day they sit with hungry stomach, in uncomfortable dresses that too in front of fire.
That's why most marriages are held in winters and in south india, mostly early mornings, are chosen.


I am not writing to explain the problems associated with this once in a lifetime event  but to put the beautiful side of it. the beautiful side i enjoyed when i happen to visit a marriage in Delhi. It was a beautiful venue with nicely dressed people. But what shocked me the most was that groom was on the Ghodi and was laughing, enjoying and feeling friendship, relations and much more. I could not believe my eyes, and brushed them again and again. But to my surprise he was laughing and now even dancing. I was witnessing a marriage which i think i had never witnessed again till date. But many can say that it was all about money and every marriage is not full of that and after many years of college we have to manage with lesser friends.

But after few years I again witnessed  such a marriage in which the groom was  happy and enjoying every bit of his moments. This time groom was not very rich, might not have known his to-be and was not surrounded by too many friends. Yet no line of fear and anger on his face. He was enjoying drinks with his friends, wearing comfortable suit, joking with pundit, always ready for photoclicks,  dancing on the beat of DJ and above all he was laughing throughout. I recalled that marriage of delhi just to  saw that here money was not flowing and  there were people who always ask difficult questions about life and future. They spared  Mr. groom this time.

Now sitting in library what I want to end up with is that a marriage is about two people and they must remain happy throughout that course of auspicious  celebration. They must not think about all the worldly problems of food, relatives, camera, transport, etc. JUST chill,  its a moment bigger then your birth and death. And as a friend we must remind them to enjoy. 

up elections

after a huge majority in elections in uttarpradesh bjp has announced its chief minister also.
as i have been studying about india for a long time and can say a few words about it , though not having any speciality in uttarpradesh.
what i think is that up represents whole of india in many ways such as population ,  rivers and poverty , which gave rise to lowest level of politics.
but the most important question is the relation between hindus and muslims in up and the evolving dynamics from a hindu who is also cm of up.
we have to understand from three angles , first is if yogi consider UPits as citizens of india only and no discrimination based on religion  as such.
the second case can be reflected in his deeds as being pro-hindu in which there can be more temples and less of cow slaughtering.
but the third is very dangerous in which the CM can appear to be anti-muslim. if anything like this happens then it will not only be a great danger for BJP but also for the whole of democracy.

but we have to analyse all the three in detail.
the first approach was followed by gandhiji and his comrades who considered people to be indians only and take steps for eradicating necessary evils from hindu's society for example untouchability.
but the result was spread of communalism and division of country in the end. Had they chosen path for giving more to muslims might have worked and kept our country intact. But the question of giving and conceding was never in the debate because it was politics, working in, and not economis or society.

let us understand the second aspect that is being pro hindu and not being anti musim. this is very difficult to understand because the minority feeling will always be there to remind us that certain rights are under threat. after all this is how democracy works. But i would like to consider this aspect in the light of few examples. It is a known fact that in india muslims have bullied hindus for really long. for example the bollywood industry, the mafia's of underworld, the attitude of maulvi of a small town who think that it is his right to speak in early morning over mic at 4 am, when everybody is sleeping and those coming to prayer are not more than 5 or 6. these things have happened due to lack of deepening of democracy and lack of conversation between people about their problems and hence emergenec of leaders who are insensitive towards developmental goals. these leaders are real appeasers and protect the interests of few in return of votes. So if we have a CM who is anti pro- hindu and not anti muslim then we can curb this tendency of bullying the majority. For example can hindus of Pakistan think of such behaviour in Pakistan. we value the moment when we know that there can be worse than that. so this can be a reminder for muslims that things can go wrong and future politicans can remind that there used to be a time. this can be like a shock therapy for million of ignorant indians who have never faced tragedies of politics such as people face during civil wars in libia, iraq, syria, etc.

the third and last is the ultimate damage that a country can do to itself. as after partition Jinnah wanted to align his country away from religious lines, but was sidelined. because ultimately freedom is required not to be shackled back into religious lines. As freedom comprises of options, choices, alternatives, liberty, etc in decision making. for example i want to be a painter but the religion does not allow that. or i want to be film actor but religion does not allow that. so if the lines taken by new CM are intersecting with secular interests of muslims and so the ecomony or society then this politics will prove to be detrimental for the country as a whole and we can wait for the disasters  be mentioned  in history for coming generations.


the primary duty of the  chief minister is to maintain the functioning of state as per the constitutional mandates. for that welfare of masses and respective developmental activities are a sinquonon. But UP is a special case where along with the  primary function of CM , yogi has to maintain the anti-communal stance. This stance if followed might have prevented partition of india. this anti communal stance is characterized by reaching out to public for their support in developmental activities and letting them know that the government is secular by advertisment and proper communication between government and those who are governed.
we must not only be secular but seem to be secular. so that unethical and immoral politics may not creep in.

as far as construction of ram mandir is there it is no big deal. a muslim living around there may earn  more from a shop of prasad and can find it better than few policemen placed near his shop. but the problem creeps in when only hindus are allowed shops around that area.... and area can be very big...like the whole UP or india.

so the essence of story is a person can be a muslim, UPite, english speaker, vegiterian, lgbt supporter, mother and her name can be Sita. so we must stop being judgemental and must mind our own businesses of value addition in our lives. 

reservation

A great debate has been going on in our country. I think the problem is institutional. And only system itself can put everything in order.
some questions from me can be like
if a student is weak in a subject then solution can be like
give her extra marks in the subject
give her promotion to other class irrespective of performance
give promotion to all in the class who are weak in that subject
find any criteria based upon which promotion to next class is given
or in the end we should work upon why is that student weak in that subject

same is the case (with further complications ) with policy of reservation
when during poona pact more reservation was given to scheduled caste it was for political representation.
the reservation in job is justified that particular community are not represented in the government employment. but then every individual is part of an age group, part of linguistic community , religious community or  different economic status. Do we consider all these criteria.

Another factor is expansions of resources for example it is said that Mughals failed in the end because they were not expanding their territory so as to satisfy growing discontent and demand for more power hungry.

Similar is the case with india in present stage. The problem is that we are not increasing job opportunities in general. So the limited bread has to be shared by expanding number of people. So the rise in discontent.

This discontent is visible in different forms in different times and in different regions.
such as discontent in north east, terrorism in J&K , Naxals in central india , huge migration to delhi for coaching and all.

youth is such a energetic stage that we all needed a direction to do something.
we are easily used by politicians when we lack information , knowledge , and wisdom.

So the major solution is possible with political path in accordance with constitution of india. But still we all can prove ourselves to be patriotic by following the fundamental duties mentioned in constitution of india such as respecting ideals of freedom struggle , respecting women, protecting nature and environment, and abjuring violence and like.

communal incidence in churu

few days ago I was sceptical that churu was having cases of rape , cruel murder or such. I was convinced that person from churu can not even kill an ant. And even if there were cases of heinous crimes there were elements of outsider influence such as workers from bihar or criminals from haryana.

But few days back communal incidence took place in which buses were burnt , shops were destroyed in night, and during day whole of Churu was occupied by police.

The incidence started with petty matter of killing of cow, then a procession was allowed which carried the dead cow.

If we go deeper into why such incidence took place
1. complete failure of administration and definite involvement of key officials
2. only politicians are benefited from communal riots,
3. no new development in field of industry , job creation , sports, education-- these are necessary for using the energy of youth, otherwise youth can be misguided easily under frustration, fear, uncertainty of future prospects.

what is the solution
1. as per Amrtiya Sen let the people talk , it is the duty of every individual to talk to other regarding the occurrence of such incidence , be it hindu to hindu or hindu to muslim. At every turn or stop people must openly talk about occurrence of such incidence. Because if people will not talk then an undercurrent of suspicion will persist. and in long run this undercurrent if amplified by petty politicians
2. As per the administration there can be long term and short term solution
short term solution will be spreading the awareness about law. A single information about RPA will give signal to all that if anybody is booked in spreading enmity between communities he or she will never be able to contest election , other information which instill rule of law should be spread profoundly , transfer and punishment for those who could not take precautionary steps.

In long term steps there should be reservation
of economic-- urban planning can be done in such a way that there is reservation for houses for muslims between Hindus, shops of muslims between hindus , or in a way higher mixing of religion along with secular factors , because if a muslim is loosing money along with hindus his religion will not come in between.

of social-- muslims as board of directors in hindu temples and vice versa ,


3. the overall prosperity of society , which can come only from education is sine quo non for sustainability . because if people are frustrated then they will either move toward communals , regionalistic , naxals , militants or anything like that.

4. we have to create opportunity for younger generation in a way such a way that elder generation must empower  new entrepreneur to solve their secular problems. The spread of communalism can be fought with change of ideology of common men. Even great leaders like M K Gandhi has failed to curb this menace

harassment of ias officer

what is the big deal in it.
if u see it through the angle of a women then u will find that such things are happening with women with spatio temporal variation  . if u look it from the perspective of officers such things are happening with officers at lower strata be it male or female , further if u look it from the perspective of rich versus poor( offcourse in this case she may be relatively poor) , then also u will not find any big deal that poor people are harassed by the richer ones .
but what makes it a special case is that , as per marx , she belongs to burgoua class, she has the commonality to gain sympathy with other similarly positioned people .
for example does she have sympathy of women only , of officers only , of poor people only .
No, is the answer . She will be supported by people who wants to protect the interest of that class. for example civil servants , her colleagues , well placed doctors , engineers , etc .

but if somebody say that this is not so ,,, then why these burgoua class people do not take steps for women harassment in tribal area , in small scale industries , in colleges , schools , and where not .

but proliteriate  are a different people all together , a class apart ,

so the solution lies in taking every case to highest priority , a prompt action , a bottom top approach ,
for example think of a place where a slight wrong behavior with anybody is taken very seriously , then who would dare to do that misbehavior with top authorities .

So dear funny guys wake up .. fight against every little wrong . article 51 A , (e), (i),  

The friend is the man who knows all about you, and still likes you

Dost to jindage k har mor par banate hai par fir bhe kuch dost aise hote hai jo sab kuch hote hai, unke samne sirf doste he hote hai, baake sab ghoot sirf dost he jante hai ke hum kahan milenge, hame kya chaiye, par doste ke suru wat hote kahan se hai, muge to lagat hai ke sab kuch bas ek itaffak hai par fir bhe sale kuch dil main baith jate hai, doste se pale ye possible nahi ke hum dekhe ke ye kitna intelligent hai ya ye hame kaise kam main le bas kuch chere hote hai jinse hum aksar milte hai aur sirf yahi chate hai ke vo bhe humse milna chahain

Koi doste kare to tumse kare tum jaise ho vaise kare agar koi badal ke doste kare to vo doste nahi vo sauda hua na

Col main mere doste ke suruwat col main jane se pale he suru ho gaya the -bikaner ke jat hostal k samne mare bahi ne muge ek larke se milwaya emity pe tha, lamba, theet marware bol raha tha aur janne se pale he col main mere jimeddre lae le aur kaha ke koi bhe kam ho to mil lena mera nam Rajesh Choudhary hai

Col pauche to jo sabse jyda bolne wala larka pasand aaya jo mere he branch ka tha jisne muge apne sath baithaya aur naye naye doston se milwaya, col ke har mor pe main jiske sath sabse jyda ghooma aur jo muge sabse pale dost laga vo apna muh thora sa machkor ke kahata tha aur bhai g k haal hai Yogesh Poonia

Fir col main redu boss ne muge ek larke se milwaya jo padku dikta tha aur main jiske sath tulsi kunj se col aata tha, aur jisse maine sabse jyda class ke timing pooche hoge, exam ka syllabus poocha, md pg ke sheet se le kar nptel tak sab ke bare main muge yahi se pata chala, lal pagame main aur ek gande se baniyan main Sudhanshu Gautam

Col se tk aane ka sabse aasan tareeka, muge sabse jyda certificate dilwane wala jise maine sabse jyda phone kiya hai, ekdum sareef gay ke tareh, safed check ke shirt pehane safed hero honda pe Dinesh Suthar

Mere sabse pale group ka sabse bhola yar , jise maine hamesha mere sath paaya jisne muge kabhi kise cheej k liye mana nahi kiya, jo itna saccha ke jiske bina mehafile jam he nahi sakte, jeans pent aur bina shirt k Subhash Choudhary

Koi itna kaise uth sakta hai ke usse pale har koi uske bare main jane, jisse sahi sabdon ka istemal karne wale koi ho he nahi sakta language koi bhe ho vo best hai, maine bahuton ko usse jalte dekha tha par usme kami nahi nikal sakta koi bhe koi bhe nahi skin tight jeans main safed shoes main phone pe english main style marta hua Himanshu Ageria

Itna simple ke simplicity he uske pechan hai, thora sa gussa jyda aata hai aur bolta bhe ekdum seedha hai aur exams main ekdum bindas kabhi nahi dara kise se nahi, apne ghee ke barne k sath chair pe ek taang neeche ek chair ke uper aur choor ke roti khata Amit Godara

Ganga ka chora, har kadam pe aage rehane ke aur naye cheege lane ke koshis, isne col main jitne galtiyan ke hai sayad he koi kar payega, baat karne main bahut accha hai, ek minut main rates kam safai ke liye alok ko vapis bulata angry young man Saurav Kumar Bhardwaj

Ise koi samgai ke itne teg bol ke sath na dore verna raat ko 4-5 filme kaun dekhega, jitne koshis kar lo ise gussa nahi aayega, room ka gate hamesha yahi kholta hai, apne tata ke phone ke flap se photo leta Vikas Dhankar

Kahata hai internet ko gale mat do, koi bhe kam teen dandiyion se kara lo, sabse jyda informed har field se,sirf maggi se rat kat lega, black tshirt aur underwear main lambe balon ke sath chasma sambhalta Anirudh Sharma

Mat pooch ke kya haal hai mera dushman ke aage ye dekh ke kya rang hai mera dost k aagea, chabe de main lata hoon, bahi ka laptop sabse special hai, kitna bhe koshis kare ghoot nahi bolna aata ise, cooler ke aage gehare rang ka nikker pehane sota Iswar Choudhary

Bahi har photo main hai, ise bike aur plane main antar batao, sama baandhana koi inse seekhe hamesha suruwat inhe se hote hai, apne chote chote jeevon de sath Ashok umar Soni

Bahi ka dil aur haath dono bahut saaf hai, party uske bina adhure hai, bahi hamesha har cheeg k liye tyer hai, takat bahut hai bahi main aur nishana bhe bahut accha hai cfl pe, best party organiser, hare tshirt black nikkar aur schandal main Kuldeep Sharma

Inhe himesh bahut pasand hai, electrical ka hone pe bahut ghamand hai, aur sim badalne ka bahut shokh hai, dance karke he mana bahi, kale pajame safed baniyan aur laptop ke sath Akhil Jain

Jiske sath maine engg ka sabse jyda time bitaya, jisse maine sabse jyda intelligent baate ke, jisse mere koi soch chupi nahi, jo muge hamesha hostal k gate tak chorne aaya, jiske karan main itna ghooma, jisne muge kabhi na nahi kaha jab main accident ke baad bed pe tha,aur jab 750 rs main goa ghoomane nikal para tha, jiska marks/study=1 hai, jo sabka accha dost hai, sir pe baalon ka limited edition liye phone pe baat karta Narender Singh bhati

koi mandir jata hai to koi maikhane hum to vahan jate hai jahan Dost jaye

CRICKET

cricket has always been like a religion for indians. At the time of match we stop working ,stop eating , we have comment for every ball thrown and every shot played ,watching everyball is as important as breathing while the time of play we forgot who is playing ,where he has come from, we just want him to make run and took wicket for our nation and this much of devotion in this number is nowhere in india.

The development cant occur when the distributed equal powers tries to pull back each other. The has to be uniformity and a single ray has to represent the source. By the acts of indian politics cricket is also tarnishing its image. Cricket will also become a puppet of politicians.

Now when the time of waking up the west from a board game in which there were only two or three countable moments in a game of 90 minutes. Where as there can be 240 equally unpredictable skillful moments in the great game of cricket.


The best things of now a days cricket are ,it is played in night so do not disturb working hour for which it is ready to pay the bills of power used ,it uses the best technology used ever in any sports i.e. instruments are everywhere from inside of wicket to outside of the earth , it is the platform for businessmen, film stars, media, politics, sports persons and common men they all are worried of the next ball, teams are playing in there respective areas so huge crowed gathering to see there local players with top international players.




Now this is our game we have to decide its better future and have to stop watching others playing there games. Just think of the time when there will be clubs owned by richest persons in this world in india and outside india . There will be better opportunities for every child to full fill there dreams of playing this holy game, cricket has the power to bring together the two nations, the stock exchange will be hiking with its effect, the gap of rich and poor will be filled with its talent, And india will shine ......

lust for everything

from very begining i was confused that how and why to choose ,can i have every option with me like can i play every game like tt, badminton, cricket, football,etc; can i be good in every subject like maths and history ,but somehow i managed to come out of school with these confusions but in college where for prooving very little we have to give our very best due to competitions and very volatile position for everything the problems were what type of friends should i have ,should i be studious, should i make projects, and participate in various events, look forward for sports or not, should i limit my enjoyment.

And in all these i found that due to inability to choose one from many i affected every aspect of my life like i can't put my identity for anything ; studies affected my projects, table tennis affected badminton,friends can't understand me, as a whole i always have been half for everything and can't give my best for anything and i just keeping on changing restlessly for whole my life.

So who says that change is life now standing at this stage of my life i think that to do something we have to stop ourselves from changing ,change is not life ,life means to stay and grow up, be sure that one day this thing will put me to a corner where very few has reached that is the place i was meant for so no matter how small the start is i will do my best for that .hoping for best in my life and trying to remove the words EVERYTHING and CHANGE from my life.

life

me and me inside out

Determination is the thing which makes us go higher in our life. But in my life i have never been determined means do not know what to do next---LIKE?



How to block a tt ball in the shortest span always misses it



Cant judge the correct question in option in the university exam even wasted many minutes in it, goes for wrong in most of the time



Dont know which unit to complete just hrs before my exam, it is really confusing when u have to work the complete night



Cant made the consensus to go with which book even after taking months on it, it is difficult
to find the correct book even if it is in rtu auspice



Driving neo by last few years but cant learn to control over it and met three road accidents



Playing tt and badminton by the last many yrs but cant opt the game to go with, buy tt racket tnen finding interest in badminton now what to do.



Running with this confusion i have many times choosen the wrong ways like


In first year tried for someone


In second year arosed interest in robotics and projects


In third year started living outside a hostle


And waiting the newest stupidity in ending engg



But in the course of confusion had enjoied my life at its best

Roamed a lot in bikaner know most of its places but not visited junagarh fort


Went for one day to jodhpur viewed everything in it except a hotel for food


Toured manali with friends and had everything except viewing the famous temple, seen rivers, mountains, great weather, snow ,goose pimple drifting of our car in those roads with a drunk driver, enjoyed football in that weather, standing aside of clouds ,being naked in snow,enjoyed magee from very beautiful vendors and much more which cannot be explained in words . Important was that parents were not informed


Visited iit delhi and the world famous place of delhi,watched a fight with sticks, travelling in tube , marketed in,


Visited iit mumbai and seen black and white phases of mumbai getting used to of local train, travelling in boat and having pisc of indian navy as i was not supposed to do that and got scolded by other crew members, visiting fashion street twice


Visited goa with friends and not viewed a single church missing the key, having prons, going in the cruise seeing the great ocean, having candle light dinner at the beach seeing and swimming with foreiner, walking a long way to our flat, that journey in the bus, abusing the conducter ,feeling that cold wind waves of the ocean in the night


The day herts me the most
Very difficult to judge me, same problem with officers at ssb so i was thrown out with many hopes and ambitions that i will do it in next time or will find somthing where i sounds good

i wanted to be you+1

What I want
I wanted to be a painter
who paints in the music of a river, snowfall is out at his window his love is being painted by him that is nature.



I wanted to be a soldier
Who is living in hell like conditions, his enemy is too bigger than him but he is generated to fight only he is fighting destroy the enemy.




I wanted to be an astrologer
Who can inform before a calamity knocks and peace and harmony and happiness are his ultimate goals.




I wanted to be a scientist
Who can understand the nature , what rivers are saying when dirt is thrown in them ,what animals are saying when they are tortured ,what trees wanted to say before they are cutted down.





There is too much of pain in this world everybody is doing for himself i wanted to be a student who is learning to decimate the pain of others and who is seeking the energy to resolve the problems of life

taking it otherwise

Why to ask how are you because i am great going on and
not willing to start war, as i love to stay kalm,
not willing to be famous ,it will make me restless ,
not willing to be politician, they are biggest baggers.
not willing to start earn money because my parents are doing it for me ,
not willing to have a family, then i will have to prove my self and
even not willing to be in love, because have to save it for my family,
so love to be like this for ever and these are the best days of my life..................

friends is for what we live

Friends are the relations we make by our deeds, talks and feeds, they help us to make pleasure, be happy and vice versa .Friends help us to prove us ,they makes us to think wide ,behave write and many of them influence us so much that we decide our destination, and some of them keeps us in touch with our soul ,some of them make us to spread our hands and say ''YES I WILL''. But for this we have to have graeat number of friends and luckily I have many......should i name .....only name ....or describe by my way. k will do this because they describes us...

tesating only

hiiiiiiiiiiiiiii
to all comig to col sab aa jao