how we talk

amartya sen says that every issue can be resolved if we talk. 

i think there are three levels of conversations or three levels of replies for same statement.  the first level sounds  assimilatory , the second one is an attacking one and the third one is killer one. lets understand with examples…. 

one fine day a boy came to me and asked a maths question, though the question was relatively easy at his level of class, i have three ways of replying. first is, saying nothing and giving the solution, second is, telling him that he should work harder, and third is, asking him to leave maths, as it is not his cup of tea. 

just when i am writing this blog, my cook asked me where is the knife. I know that he often misses knife. I have three ways of replying, I can smile and say that I don’t know. Another is, I can ask him to be more cautious next time onwards, and third is by telling him that he is a bad cook as he cannot take care of his belongings. 

this third type of reply, in both cases,  is very dangerous and we must, not only, abstain from talking like that but also stay away from people who talk alike. because at level three the talks are about problems, which have no solution.   Another example, she is bad in communication because of her lesser height. now if she tries to improve her speak-ability  by increasing height, she cannot do in her lifetime. 

likewise, the problem of caste can be solved in a moment if we start talking at level one. But we normally talk at level three. for example she is poor in maths because she belongs to scheduled community. 

These levels  are necessary to understand at personal level also because today there are many who advises us that our difficult time is because of certain habits, mind, or distinctness. this may disturb us mentally, unless we know that they are talking at level three and these advises must be ignored or corrected even at the cost of relationship. 

I think that those who talk at level one are important persons, who can take care of themselves and work to solve problem of others. at level second we have people who are attention seekers, part of problem not solution, 

and at third level we have idiots and haters who either do not know how to talk or want to sever  the relationship but are stuck due to some reasons, so we must stop the communication and got away from them, asap. 

understanding attitude

for so long we have been seeing and observing this term i.e. attitude. But what does this term actually mean can be understood with examples.

firstly we have to understand that attitude is of three types i.e. positive, negative or neutral.
examples
1. a women is feeding her child with biscuit. -- positive attitude's person(+) will see a loving and caring mother, instead of negative one (-)who will see that mother is giving less nutritious food.
2. a person driving his car very fast -- + will see an urgency, (-) will see idiocy.
3. two friends who are aspirants for a job. If one gets it and other could not. then the one who could not get the job, if have positive attitude, will think, that atleast my friend got success but if he has negative attitude, then he will be jealous of the other.

person with positive attitude tries to learn good things out of any situation, person, event or issue.

this makes attitude very important because by having a positive attitude we can see opportunities, that enables us to keep moving forward.

informally, attitude can mean , positiveness, and if a person say that she has attitude, that mean,  she does not require external negative inputs.