talks -- chugali

talking can be of many type such as constructive(in which we talk about issues), non-serious/gossips (in which we talk about artificial problems) and chugali(in which we try to demean or undermine particular individuals).

this chugali type of conversations is particularly very interesting because
1. evolution tells us that it has led to development of language (parochial or local),
2. social bonding between loosers, and almost everybody is a looser on certain counts.
3. an individual can feel satisfied and secure by getting a positive feedback from others.

characteristics of chugali
1. it is a very serious affair, as credibility is at stakes,
2. it requires very small group one to four maximum,
3. it has a soothing effect on nerves, and can be equated with meditation, drinking, shopping etc.
4. it is not for bigger motives like power, money etc.
5. it can be done on low voice and cool temprament,
6. it is a form of addiction or automatic mode or easy mode, in our mind.

we cannot always talk in a constructive way because it requires an effort for educating ourselves and then acting like others. But we must be careful that while chugaling, we are talking about negativity, which is bad as it consumes time and energy. that is the reason, today people are unhappy because of other's happiness.
 So a young person who is working hard, minding own business, thinking big, thinking beyond ages,  never indulges in chugali(not even in thoughts).